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Have you ever found yourself running up against a mental block that simply will not move, no matter what you try? Have you felt weighed down by the heaviness of that dreaded “slump”? Has your mind tried to tell you that you’re incapable of overcoming your lethargy to accomplish the task at hand? We’ve all […]

I’ve conducted an “annual review” to look back on my year and celebrate my progress as a coach, and you should do the same. In a recent post, I shared my steps for evaluating your progress and setting strong goals for the new year. It’s important to acknowledge and celebrate how far you’ve come, because […]

It’s time to set new year goals! December is a time to evaluate our progress and make plans for the new year. If you’re a business owner or entrepreneur, follow my steps for success as you set new goals for your business:   1.     Celebrate your progress before you outline new year goals We are […]

Entrepreneurs and small business owners, are you ready to build a team and scale your business? Recently, I shared my burnout story as a beginning entrepreneur. A friend recommended the book Who Not How by Dan Sullivan, and it taught me the importance of finding the right people to support you on your journey. I […]

As a small business owner, I’ve experienced burnout. I’ve overcome many obstacles as I’ve grown my business, and I help my coaching clients do the same. Today I want to share my story and how I overcame entrepreneur burnout to scale my business and achieve my goals. I took a leap of faith and started […]

Why is it important to set boundaries in relationships? “Boundaries” often carry a negative connotation, so I shared my personal definition in a recent blog. Boundaries are about setting expectations for ourselves and others. We need to communicate our needs and expectations to our friends, family, and romantic partners. It’s important to have conversations about […]

Do you know how to set boundaries? Last week, I shared why boundaries are critical for our personal growth. Setting expectations – for ourselves, and others – allows us to communicate our needs. Healthy boundaries prevent burnout and overwhelm.   How to set boundaries Be proactive, not reactive. Set boundaries today to communicate your needs […]

What does it mean to set healthy boundaries for ourselves? “Establishing boundaries” is the sixth and final step in my CHOICE coaching program, a simple 6-step approach for gaining confidence, identifying next steps, and making progress toward your long-term goals. By this step, my coaching clients have undergone the challenging work to clarify their needs […]

Learning how to set goals is critical to activating change. The goals you created in the past may have set you up for failure. For example, goals like “I want to lose weight” or “I’ll do better in school,” are vague and unsustainable. How, then, should we approach goal setting for long term success?   […]

How do we stay motivated on our journey to change? The fifth step in my CHOICE coaching program is “change activation.” It’s time to take action toward your goals and make the changes you wish to see in your life. We know that change doesn’t happen overnight; it’s a process, a journey. And we believe […]

How do we activate a desire for life change? “Change activation” is the 5th step in my CHOICE coaching program, and it’s about taking action to make the changes that you want to see in your life. You’ve clarified your mindset, identified your core values, and overcome inner obstacles – now it’s time to move […]

Are you ready to face your fears? Fear is one of the most stubborn obstacles that we face on our path to change. Last week, I shared a piece of advice that I give coaching clients about overcoming obstacles – and that is to do the opposite of what your internal dialogue says to do. […]

How do we overcome obstacles on our journey to change? Pursuing our goals is not always easy. Our inner blocks trip us up – our fears, self-sabotaging behaviors, insecurities. Even the assumptions we make about ourselves and others can be obstacles when they reinforce limiting beliefs. The third step in my CHOICE coaching program is […]

You know what they say about making assumptions. “When you assume, you make an ass of you and me.” How often do we get into trouble when we make assumptions about ourselves, about others, or about situations? We’ve started a blog series about the obstacles that hold us back on our journey to change. Last […]

What are your patterns of self sabotaging behavior? We face many obstacles on our path to change. These obstacles include our fears, doubts, insecurities, etc. We need to identify those obstacles that hold us back from pursuing our dreams. The truth is, these obstacles attempt to “protect” us from the pain or discomfort of growth. […]

What should you do when you and your partner have conflicting values? Our values give us purpose and direction. Honoring our core values is key to making better choices and pursuing our life goals. When there is a misalignment between our actions and our values, we often experience conflict. In the same way, we’ll experience […]

What are your self-beliefs? What do you believe about yourself, and is it true? We’re midway through a blog series about our values and beliefs. Last week, I wrote about re-examining our values in seasons of transition. So too do we need to take a hard look at our belief system. Our core values give […]

How often do you reexamine your value system? We’ve started a blog series about our values. Last week, I wrote about why identifying your core values is key to making better choices. When our actions are in line with our values, we’ll find balance and fulfillment. Value alignment is especially important when we’re at a […]

Do your choices align with your core values? Independence, competence, loyalty, integrity, creativity… It is important to identify your core values in order to make changes in your life. Life change is simpler than we think. I believe that our choices can change our lives. At Monarch Life Coaching, “CHOICE” is an acronym that outlines […]

What stands in the way of a positive mindset? This is our last post in a series about “clarifying your mindset,” the important first step on your journey to change. This is a process of self-discovery that will help you find clarity about your purpose and direction. Week 1: How to develop a “for you” […]

Is your current state of mind conducive to change and transformation? Our blog series this month is about laying the groundwork for your journey to change. “Clarify your mindset” is the first step in my CHOICE coaching program. After all, the key to making better choices is having clarity about where you’re going and why. […]

Do you want to find your purpose? We all want to know what we’re meant to do with our lives, and why we were put on this earth. “Purpose” gives us direction and motivation. The first step of my coaching program is a process of self-discovery that requires that you (1) uncover your purpose, (2) […]

Where is your mindset? Are you… thinking positively, or spiraling into negativity? Are you… taking responsibility, or blaming others? Are you… feeling “open” and communicative, or closed off? Our state of mind influences our thoughts, actions, and day-to-day choices. I believe that the choices we make on a daily basis have the power to change […]

How has your past trauma affected your ability to build a healthy relationship? When we experience trauma, our emotional response changes our beliefs about ourselves and the world around us. And so we carry the “baggage” of our trauma into every aspect of our lives, including (especially!) our relationships. Do you find yourself making the […]

What does it take to move forward in the wake of emotional trauma? We have all faced some form of trauma in our lives. The Covid-19 pandemic, for example, has impacted every one of us, and changed the way that we see the world. In the past year, we have felt fear, pain, and loneliness. […]

What is trauma informed care? And what does it mean to me as a Life Coach? This is an approach in the human service field that teaches us that trauma is more common than we think, and so we can assume that most people have experienced some form of trauma in their lives. With that […]

What comes to mind when you think about a “traumatic” event? We tend to assume that trauma is violent, something like a shooting or a car accident. The truth is trauma is much more prevalent in our lives than we might think. There are different types of trauma, and each of us experiences trauma differently. […]

How do you battle anxiety and indecision to choose the right job? There are a lot of factors to consider, and the job hunt can feel overwhelming. Taking a new job is a “big” decision because it’s a long-term commitment. You spend a lot of time in this environment, interacting with the team and doing […]

How do we approach a job interview with confidence? Interview anxiety is very real. It’s intimidating to walk into a room of people who are there to judge our qualifications. And so we tend to think that our level of confidence is tied to our preparation, like how much we know about the company or […]

How do you know when it’s time to quit your job? We ask ourselves this question when we feel unhappy in our current role. Maybe you feel “stuck” or unappreciated.  You’re simply bored. The problem is, our fear often gets in the way of making big decisions and taking action. We are afraid to make […]

Are you wondering what the power of choice is and how it affects your daily life? Well, you are in the right place, as this post will help you explore how real power lies in the ability to make a choice. You face choice overload on a daily basis, and you often find ourselves contemplating […]

How should I negotiate a higher salary?  How do we gain the confidence to ask for what we’re worth? In my work with young professionals, they often ask these questions or how to negotiate a starting salary or a raise.   And for many in this position, it is scary to negotiate salary.  We fear that […]

Have you ever faced a career burnout or just wonder how bad the effect can be? Well, you are in the right place, as this blog is going to give you an insight into how lousy career burnout can be, its types, and how to overcome them. Many of us face burnout at some point […]

How do we break our harmful patterns of thought or behavior? We want to stop making the same mistakes. We feel frustrated with ourselves for giving in to our fears or hurting our loved ones. Fear influences our thoughts and actions in all aspects of our lives… our relationships, our work performance. If you’ve been […]

How many of us can relate to the pressure of pleasing a demanding boss? We walk into work (or “log on,” in a remote work world), and we’re fearful of making mistakes, receiving negative feedback… or getting fired. What do these fears have in common? At the end of the day, it comes down to […]

Our fears sabotage us, especially in relationships. We know what it’s like to make the same mistakes over and over again, falling back into the same harmful patterns of behavior that destroyed past relationships. Fear can cause insecurity, sensitivity, anger… and in response, we lie, or we lash out at the people we love. Fear-based […]

Our Nest… I was listening to a podcast recently and the conversation was about leaving the nest and moving out of your comfort zone.  The speaker was discussing the importance of coming out of your comfort zone and the need for growth.  Immediately, it made me think of a comfort zone a bird’s nest.  This […]

We communicate with others in a variety of ways.  We text, IM, email, Zoom, speak on the phone, use Facetime, and when we are social distancing or not, we communicate in person.  We communicate by body language, tone, voice, eye contact, inflection, essentially many ways.  Maya Angelou once said, “I’ve learned that people will forget […]

Many couples are spending more time together during the COVID-19 quarantine.  This is a time that you are being given to get to know each other again and hopefully you are getting along.  If you have kids the stress of homeschooling may be taking a toll on your relationship.  Let’s be honest…you are probably having […]

During this uncertain time, where many have been furloughed or lost their jobs, it is understandable that many are feeling scared, unsettled and shaken.   Losing a job is a difficult and major life transition that has now impacted over 6 million Americans all at once.   It is a time where you may feel powerless or […]

I was working with a client this morning and she was very anxious about everything happening around the world in light of COVID-19 and rightfully so. Many people are suffering with increased anxiety and fear over the virus that has infected over 200,000 people at this point in time. The bombardment of information from politicians, […]

I had posted a few weeks ago on my Instagram that I had a unexpected diversion in my morning commute due to a water main break in NYC. I mentioned in that post that I took a new subway route to work because my usual subway was impacted. This, although inconvenient, provided another route for […]

There have been several things happening for me that could be labeled as coincidences, however, there are no coincidences. I believe that everything happens for a reason and that in some way we are all connected. It is important to pay attention to the signs that happen for us because it is the way the […]

In Part One; I started the conversation about couples going through separation or divorce and the need for self-care and living their truth. As we continue the conversation, we shift to growing in the space to be created to live our truth and to love yourself. Before we proceed, although this post is written from […]

I have noticed a pervasive theme while working with clients that are going through separation or divorce. It has been stated as, “I don’t usually take time for myself.” But the theme is much more than that, it is what lies behind these words that has inspired this post. It’s that “I never loved myself […]

“If you don’t like something change it; if you can’t change it, change the way you think about it.” In Hoda Kotb’s book I Really Needed This Today this quote by Mary Engelbreit was the feature of the day a few weeks ago. Today, after working with a client, I came home and shared with […]

Life coaching is your journey to self-awareness and new perspectives. Life coaching is desire driven and an opportunity to make the changes that you want to see. It is an opportunity to examine the obstacles and fears that get in the way of you making changes and work on integrating them into your progress forward. […]